Mental Health Can be Problematic Without Coping Mechanisms

My mental health can be problematic without the daily implementation of coping mechanisms. If I didn’t use my tools to have corrective moments my brain, energy, and well being would be completely shot. I’ve been having an interesting few months dealing with life changes, keeping up with my coping mechanisms, and maintaining my weight.

Buying A New Home

As most of you know from my podcast, my husband and I are currently buying a home. Saying that this experience has been interesting is an understatement. Purchasing a multi-family home has a lot of red tape, unknowns, and mental hurdles.

Finding realtors, contractors, and trusting people blindly with your future is stress all of its own. However, the benefit I know in the end will be worth it. As we inch closer to closing I know this is meant to be.

This house will be the start of our family portfolio. I am sure we will make tons of mistakes along the way but we will win. Success is always filled with a trail of mistakes.

I was so nervous to take this on and my mental health was sent into a tailspin. In order to level set, I asked myself what is really causing this? Is it failure or fear?

Instead of living in anxiety, I kept having a conversation that allowed me to see things clearer instead of impractically. Is it scary to buy a home? Yes, but people do this all the time.

Above all, this was our dream. I can’t allow me to get in my way of doing this with my best friend. At that point, it was settled. No need to fear we got each other. In my moments it gives me comfort to be reminded.

My Mental Health Progress

Subsequently, my mental health has been fair but overall good. Between the stress at work and the conflicted feelings of buying this house, it is up/down. I try my best to stay active, incorporate my coping methods, and stay focus on corrective behavior.

Although I have these things to keep my brain on track, even the best people slip. These few months I have been experiencing mom guilt around my son. I know this is nothing more than a side effect from my body blame that my irrational brain thinks caused his death.

My thoughts are usually how are you celebrating these milestones without him? How are you just moving on as if he didn’t exist? The rational part of my head and heart knows that’s not true.

Furthermore, I often feel guilty leaving all of his memories behind. I know he will be with me always as we’re forever connected. It just feels so different from having this experience without him.

My job is to pick myself up and not allow my irrational thinking to keep me from these beautiful memories. I will never get to buy my first house again. As your first is your first right?

Allowing your feelings to dictate your experience entirely when they are negative is unfair. It quickly unravels the work you’ve done to find that peace you need to move forward. My mental health is always going to be a work in progress.

How is my weight loss journey?

Meanwhile, my weight loss journey will continue for the rest of my life. At this stage, I am maintaining my weight with lightweight fluctuation. I’m still walking, being mindful of portions, and not eating late.

During my mental break, my diet suffered. I ate whatever, overslept, no exercise, and not hydrating. This is not what resolves depression. It is the opposite of what you should be doing.

However, depression is unpredictable. We aren’t always aware of triggers until we’re triggered. There is a bright side to feeling this way, it’s called waking up.

As long as you are able to wake up the next day you have another chance to try to be better than yesterday. This sounds easy but it can feel impossible. Deadlines and goals are cool but you need patience as well.

You won’t be able to achieve the ultimate goal without it. Hard deadlines will void all the hard work you’ve done if the goal isn’t met. It will all feel like it was for nothing.

This is why I celebrate the fact that I have been able to maintain my weight, keep active, and stay focused on my health. I ask that you all keep sending me positive vibes and thinking good thoughts.

What’s next for me or for you?

Just continuing to lose weight and stay healthy. I am always making moves to grow in my career and not continue to waste my talent. Lastly, enjoy my family and cherish the moments we have.

What’s next for you now or 2020? Tell me what you’re working towards or looking forward to?