Why Do Women Settle or Wait On Bullshit Men?

I was doing my rounds in the gossip circuit to keep all my Bareians informed when I came across a photo Karrueche Tran with Chris Brown on Instagram. The caption on the photo read “My Baby, Good Luck Today”:

Which got me to thinking why do women do this? I understand that everyone is young in this situation but by 25 you should start using your common sense. Chris Brown left Karrueche and went back to Rihanna despite how it was done and the second they broke up she was right there waiting? How does this happened with women? I see this to much among my gender. If a man is not sure about you why wait around until he is? If a man wants you he will come after you in the right way. 

As a woman I feel we need to have more standards about ourselves. We are always the ones who will bend to make shit work with an ain’t shit dude. As women we always see the sliver lining of what the dude can be before he sees it for himself. Then when he doesn’t turn out that way we are disappointed because of wasted time. No man will change unless he wants to. Hell that goes for anyone. 

I love Chris Brown as an artist but how is he supposed to take love seriously if he never goes without? He has these two beautiful women at his beck and call whenever. It is designed where he can go back and fourth. Brown isn’t the only one, regular dudes do this as well. I think women need to start taking a realistic look at themselves to understand why they are in these situations. 

People say “oh you can’t help who you love” this is true but you can help whether it is healthy for you. I find it that the women of my age bracket and maybe five years behind have no honor. They are content with the saying “He knows where home is.” What the fuck are you talking about? 

It breaks my heart to see these chicks allow this behavior. I am in no way saying that there is a perfect man out there but there is one that will try. He will be respectful if you demand it. He will understand that you don’t tolerate the bullshit. He will know and understand your deal breakers and try his best not to cross the line due to consequences.

It is so sad that women are satisfied with a piece of a man. That warm body is more important than your mental and emotional health? The empty “I love you” helps you confirm you able to be liked. I find that these chicks feel the disrespect is worth it so they won’t be alone.

Being alone is the best thing you can do to get to know yourself. It gives you a lot of time to think things through and be clear with your decision making. I can’t see how any woman would be comfortable in a situation that is not secure.

Not to say any relationship is completely secure but you should feel that way in it. How are you able to feel that way when your mate has a pattern for seeking other women’s comfort? 

That wound doesn’t just heal because that person says “I’m back and it won’t happen again.” Ladies please get it together and stop letting these men use you as welcome mats. Just like we need them they need us. It is a two way street. Know and carry your worth at all times. Men love to seek out the unworthy for mind games. They can spot a chick with low self-esteem and wife her on purpose due to the effortless management.

That’s another blog entirely…

Please Love Yourselves Ladies!