Why is She Pretty for a Big Girl? (VIDEO)

Society has a real fucked up way of showing my community love. Why is it that people are made to believe that there is only one type of pretty? Why is it that my talents due to me being a certain size solidify my beauty? When this is not the case for a skinny girl.

If a girl is thin she is just the full package. The woman doesn’t have to speak, be smart, or anything to qualify as beautiful. Skinner women are taking at face value. For example the fact that I am fashionable, a writer, and chef makes me sexy?

If I had none of these things I would just be a fat girl right? With the typical stereotypes. Self-hatred, cries everynight, and eats everything in sight to cure the pain of my low self-esteem. I eat because I am hungry duh!

Why isn’t my community offered those same opportunities? How come I can’t just sit looking fly and just be “pretty” without my size following my compliment?

I usually don’t go here but after I saw the Jazmin Sullivan interview I had to share my thoughts. Often I am told that I am pretty for a “big girl”. I hate that shit. No one goes up to smaller women and says “Hey your really pretty for a skinny girl.”

Why is the concept of a full-figured woman looking and feeling good about herself so fucking strange? I watched the interview with Hot 97’s Ebro and Rosenberg speaking to Jazmine Sullivan about her new album “Reality Show”. They just kept bringing up her damn size and trying to make it seem like her singing voice was her savior.

Jazmine Sullivan is a beautiful girl and even if she couldn’t sing I don’t feel she has an issue with her self-esteem or attracting men. It was almost like thank God you can sing because if you didn’t how would get by.

Everyone doesn’t need to be skinny with a washboard stomach to be sexy or feel good about themselves. Watching the interview was making me cringe due to the amount of times they kept referring to her size. Jazmin Sullivan remained poised but I am sure she was uncomfortable.

It’s hard being a woman and even harder being a full-figured. Due to all the stereotypes that come with it. In regard to our emotions and the types of men who find us attractive.

Here is a crazy concept, some men just like larger women. All men aren’t the same and aren’t attracted to the same thing. Just because a man likes a bigger woman doesn’t mean he is suffering from some sort of complex or strange sexual fetish. Some men just like a fuller woman. I don’t know why that is so hard for people to believe.

For the record bigger women are confident and feel good in their own skin. I have never felt my weight held me back from a social life or that I didn’t belong. I believe your attitude and approach towards life does that.

Stop telling us we are pretty for our fucking size because that is utter bullshit. Stop drawing attention to shit that we already know. This simply doesn’t happen to skinner women. I hate this from the bottom of my heart. Even if she loses weight I am sure she will do it for her not because she feels she is ugly.

The “Pretty for a big girl” term needs to die! We are just pretty period. Stop acting like life did us a favor by making us talented. We are big, beautiful, and my weight doesn’t define me it’s just apart of who I am right now. Weight is such a temporary thing. You can lose it at any time. Who someone is in their moments should determine their beauty not the numbers on the scale.

I am not pretty for a big girl, I’m just a pretty girl!

xoxo
Jersey